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PEOPLE LIE TO THEMSELVES about their emotions all the time.
Nowhere is this truer than in casual relationships.
The adult thing to do is to understand that some types of relationships need boundaries. I’ve slept with girls who have felt ashamed of themselves for sleeping with me, I’ve slept with girls who thought they could get a relationship out of me and failed, and I’ve slept with girls who started out thinking I was a great guy and ended up wanting me out of their life.
Dear Polly, If one more guy asks me for “something casual,” I’m going to throw something. I was always so painfully aware of the fact that the only reason these guys were talking to me was because I was letting them sleep with me. It wasn’t like they liked me as a person, or thought I was interesting, or gave a single shit what I did or what I said. That might have been improved if the sex had been good, but it was mediocre at best.
All of her fucked up little tastes; you’re a fan of all of them.
When you meet a girl, go on a date, sleep with her, and meet her up with again in a few days or next week – in some way or another your relationship is progressing.
You are progressing from a casual encounter in her life to a frequent encounter.
Denying this to yourself just leaves you exposed to needless drama down the line when the feelings you haven’t admitted to yourself start cropping up.Comfortable date, back to the apartment, rinse, repeat.But the older I got, and the more bored I became with this routine, the more I began to branch out and try more radical things, push things in a more sexual direction, make my dates more crazy and haphazard; do weird shit like go bowling at 3 AM, or hold entire dates in a role-play, simply because I wanted to. It’s the kind of lifestyle and behavior that takes you from ‘guy she would have sex with because she’s in the mood’, to ‘guy who can make her in the mood to have sex with.’ Your lifestyle and identity are, in themselves, arousing.Sure, it might, but I think it’s an unimaginative way of looking at it.This means that when you have sex, make sure there’s some kind of story attached to it – you both had sex in an expensive hotel after rampaging through the city, or you had sex on the beach or you had sex in a club toilet or you picked her up on at a house party, bailed and had sex in a park. The point was that it was something out of the ordinary. Back in my early 20’s, I used to spend so much time worrying about whether or not I’d get laid that I would play it extremely safe.