Christian dating for non virgins
But take it easy on her, and don’t drag it on forever. The saint smacked him in the face and said, “Be a man.” As harsh as that sounds, it’s just what the guy needed. As a note of encouragement, I have found that over time it gets better, and that in our case, marriage has been very healing.It is entirely reasonable for you to feel hurt by her past. For example, even though the woman you’re with has experienced sexual activity in the past, marital intimacy will be unique for her, because she has never experienced the gift of pure intimacy as God intended—as a sacrament.She’ll need to love you unconditionally as well, if you hope to have a lasting marriage. God does not hold a grudge over her, and neither should you. Believe it or not, this wound you feel is actually given to you by God in order to heal your own soul.Remember that your unconditional acceptance of your potential future bride makes you more of a man in her eyes than anything else you can do. It will conform you to Christ, purify your love, and even strengthen your marriage if you continue to respond to God’s grace to carry this cross.Yet God forgave her iniquities and loved Israel despite the past.
Like the woman you mentioned, my wife had become a new creation.
But you will receive something greater: the gift of herself.
It would be sad to lose the gift of a person in pursuit of the gift of virginity.
Remember that resentment is a choice, not just an emotion. Because of Christ’s sufferings, our trials in life have redemptive value when we accept them with faith and offer them up to him. Every time a memory comes to mind, I want you to pray for her healing and for their conversions. If you do not feel ready for this, perhaps you can speak with a priest or some other counselor you respect (without betraying her trust).
You need to realize the good that the Lord can do through it. In other words, it’s best to talk to someone who either knows her past, or who does not know her at all.